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Shackles - Overcoming Domestic Abuse 'by Malaika Cohen with Carole Yeoman'


Shackles is the story of one woman's battle to walk free from 34 years of  abuse - ending her silence and  and how she shaped and determined a life of non-abuse since breaking free.

 

 

   

Are you a woman experience domestic abuse?

Are you a men experience domestic violence?

Do you a young person or child want to know more about domestic abuse?

 

 

If you are reading this page you may be taking the steps towards recognising that there is something wrong with your relationship.

      

 

There still seems to be a belief that domestic violence is somehow a personal matter, it isn't. Domestic Violence is a crime.

Domestic Violence: - Everyone's issue 

Everyone can help bring domestic violence to an end, by simply talking about it openly with friends and co workers. breaking the silence is one step closer to help bring this crime to a stop, full stop.

         

 

"Violence is a crime we are becoming all too familiar with, yet it is the most chronically underreported crime.  Each year, an estimated 1 million women and 1.4 million children are assaulted by members of their own families in America.There is no longer any doubt that domestic violence has taken a great toll on the women and children. However men are affected too by domestic violence, 1 in 9 men experience domestic abuse. 

Violence against women is a critical public health problem that has devastating physical and emotional consequences for women, children and families.The effects are as far reaching as ripples caused on the water by a stone breaking the surface.

Domestic Abuse causes such total breakdown of self-esteem that the victim will almost always believe they are at fault and will undoubtedly believe they cannot escape from their situation. The shame and disgrace they feel often prevents them from crying out for help. One vital fact is not only women are victims of Domestic Abuse; men and children too.

But Domestic Abuse is not just about physical violence, though that is often the most visible and life-threatening manifestation. Domestic Abuse covers a wide range of perpetrations from the physical, sexual, psychological and or financial to the emotional. Domestic Abuse is most certainly about power; power over other peoples' life's and it is seldom one isolated incident.

 

 

 

   

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DOMESTIC ABUSE IS A GLOBAL ISSUE!

Two deaths a week result from domestic violence in the UK, an average of three women are killed daily in America as a result from domestic violence. Those who remain silent live a life shackled to fear and guilt, and the voices of their children are seldom heard. Is there life after abuse, and are we winning the war against this insidious crime?

I believe it is time we drag this inhumane practise out of the cupboard, shatter the secrecy, tackle all the taboos associated with the subject and raise awareness about this frightening crime.

I believe it is time we help victims understand how they can break the shackles and actually walk in freedom and new life. No one should live their life in fear of another person. That is why I have written a book living for 34 years in domestic abuse - so that others may read my story, understand the mental state of someone suffering from domestic abuse and hopefully be motivated to break the insidious cycle of fear that crime has over too many lives.



 



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